“Why is my baby crying? ” or “What does he need now?” are some of the throbbing questions that run through your head whenever your child crying. Understanding the reasons my kid is crying was in a top priority for me in the first month. I understood that’s the way they express themselves and communicate with the surrounding. And some do it more often than others, the bottom line is that all babies cry. And we have to survive this. As a new parent, it can be difficult, the pessimistic feeling may appear that you are not connecting with the kid and don’t understand him. Keep calm, you can have everything under control.
Why do babies cry?
In general, a child will cry because he cannot talk. It is his way of communicating his needs. He depends on you for food, warmth, company, and comfort. Crying is the only way they can get your attention when they want something. Even though it is their communication mode, for a message to be passed, it relies on both parties understanding what the other is saying; hence sometimes it is challenging to understand what the baby wants. However, with time, you can learn their signals and know how to differentiate their unique cry for each need. There are very few times when your baby will be crying for no reason. So what makes your little man cry?
It is the most common reason why babies can’t stop crying. If you eat three meals a day don’t think for a second that your kid functions that way. Just because you fed him an hour ago, you might think ‘no way he could be hungry again.’ Well, he is probably hungry, again. Infant’s stomach is small and can only hold little food to run them for a few hours. He is also growing, and his intake has increased. Some signals for hunger could be a full diaper, or he just woke up. If he is hungry, feeding him is how to stop a baby from crying.
If after feeding the baby won’t stop crying, the other obvious thing could be dirty diapers. Certainly, staying in soiled diapers is irritating and causes discomfort for him. Again this is simple, give him a nappy change, and he will stop.
Baby is too hot or too cold
Your cheeper seems to have everything you can think he needs but you don’t seem to know how to calm him. Chances are you have overdressed him, or the clothing are not enough. Both situations cause discomfort on the babe to make him cry. Figure out the cause of the distress and solve it by either removing some of his clothes or adding him some more. While infants, heat transfer is different from that of an adult.
Baby is sleepy
A fussy baby can be an indication that they need to sleep. He was up all along, paying attention to everything, but he is now tired and wants to rest. The need to sleep might make him uncomfortable, and he will only stop wailing when putting to bed. Watch out for signs such as yawning, decreased activity, rubbing eyes, or lost interest in people and toys, to soothe him before he becomes so fussy. However, don’t let your babe get used to being rocked or fed before sleep because he might become dependent on it and your newborn won’t sleep unless either of the two is done.
Pain or sick
Illnesses, teething, earaches, diaper rash, fever, hospital injection, or a small pointy piece of wood in his clothing could be the reasons your newborn won’t stop crying. As a result, when this happens, it is not difficult to recognize the cause because there will be a change in the cry of the children. Some might have a weaker cry and others an angry, screaming one. If what is causing it is something you can’t solve, see your healthcare provider.
Your little one just woke up and finds he is all by himself in bed. He will most likely cry to alert you that you left him alone in bed. This is probably is the most pleasant cry for a mother. Just take the tot in your arms, hug him and kiss. He will definitely appreciate your presence and will calm down.
The child hasn’t started crawling, walking or eating yet and can see you either eating or when you walk away from him. The baby will feel frustrated and cry because he cannot accomplish those things just yet. Likewise, he is smart enough to feel frustration already.
Worry and Fear
You went to visit your parents or friends, and your baby wakes up to find himself in the arms of his grandparents or a stranger and can’t see you nor recognize the environment. He will cry to express that he is worried or afraid. I would too )
Maybe it is the birthday, and you have invited all your relatives, friends, loud music and noises. If your tot is not used to all that he will feel it is too much to handle and result in a crying toddler. Taking him to a quiet room will make him stop.
Baby is colic
What is colic? You hear about this issue for sure. It is a condition where a newborn doesn’t know how to stop crying. This remains for long periods mostly at the same time every day, and the crying kid is mostly uncontrollable and inconsolable. This phase in your child’s life is also referred to as the period of PURPLE crying babies. I used to hear from my girlfriends ‘Why my kid is crying so much, and I can’t stop him?’ Now I know, the reason is probably colics. It is usual for infants to be colicky especially from three months of age up to at most four months. The causes are yet to be established, but most people associate it to an allergic reaction, intolerance, reflux or constipation. How long does colic last? It can last for long periods and result in the crying children screaming. The most frustrating thing is that you might not be able to calm down your fussy baby.
- sudden weeping, starting out of nowhere, and for no apparent reason
- more frantic cry like the child feels angry or in pain
- a newborn suffers from gases or farts, the stomach may feel hard
- rigid or stiff body, often with clenched fists and bent legs
How to help the colic baby?
The colic hold can minimize distress. You place your crying child with his tummy lying on your arm, and the head in your palm then try to soothe him. If the condition persists, it is time to see a doctor. Pediatricians may be sympathetic about the issue but most often the just recommend parents to stay patient. Colic is not harmful and will go away on its own. Of course, in the midst of all that mess happening, advice of “be patient” may seem impossible to consider.
Baby won’t stop crying – Tips on how to comfort him
After some time, you get to know the personality of your little one. You will easily determine the reason for crying and the best calming techniques. If a cuddle or a feed doesn’t bring the desired result, here are a few suggestions:
- Hum or play a consistent sound for kid
In your womb, your little one used to hear the beat of your heart and other noises mimic the sounds. They are so familiar. So, the repetitive noise of a washing machine, hairdryer or white noise may help to lull your tot.
- Rock your little man
All babies love to be gently rocked. The only difference in the choice of performer. For some mom’s arms are the best thing ever, they enjoy the feeling of closeness and the rhythm of your steps. Some prefer a rocking chair or a baby swing. A great output is to take a ride in a car or take a walk in a pram.
Yes, they are smart enough to be bored. Which may result in crying. Try narrating stories, commenting on your actions, singing songs with funny noises and animated expressions.
- Massage and rub his tummy
Massage is pleasant and useful for everyone. And newborns are no exception. Massaging your baby’s tummy can help with the digestion, may prevent crying and fussiness. Moreover, your touch will help to soothe and comfort him.
- Give him something to suck
Some babies feel a strong necessity for nonnutritive sucking. It calms their nerves. If your baby is crying, help her find her thumb, fist or finger, or pacifier.
- Feed him in a different position
Some babies cry during or after feeds. If it’s your case, changing the way your babe latches may help to feed calmly. Don’t forget to burp your baby after feeding by holding him against your shoulder and gently rubbing the back.
- Try giving the baby a warm bath
If your child likes water you can try a soothing bath. The temperature should be about 37 degrees C to 38 degrees C. Some moms add a few drops of lavender or chamomile for a better result, but you must be sure that your kid is not allergic to them.
Evaluate your own emotional state
When your baby cries all the time, it’s natural to feel anxiety and responsible. But blaming yourself is the worse option. The relationship with your child is a partnership, so he feels your emotions and reacts. If you are depressed, overwhelmed, angry, anxious, or detached, your infant may have trouble with soothing him.
Hungry? No. Soiled diaper? No. Fever? No, Why my kid is crying? No idea. It is normal. Babies cry. Remember he is just a newborn and getting familiar with the new world might be difficult and frustrating to him. From sounds to light, or the various temperatures, it’s all new to him and knowing how to soothe a crying baby may take a while. You will need a lot of patience because this stage will pass. Most importantly practice self-care to gain the strength to meet your child’s needs. Happy mama equals happy baby!